Stephanie Packer (Photo by Stephanie O’Neill / KPCC)
By Stephanie O’Neill
Southern California Public Radio
Stephanie Packer was 29 when she found out she has a terminal lung disease.
It’s the same age as Brittany Maynard, who last year was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. Maynard, of northern California, opted to end her life via physician-assisted suicide in Oregon last fall.
Maynard’s quest for control over the end of her life continues to galvanize the “aid-in-dying” movement nationwide, with legislation pending in California and a dozen other states.
But unlike Maynard, Packer says physician-assisted suicide will never be an option for her.
“Wanting the pain to stop, wanting the humiliating side effects to go away – that’s absolutely natural,” Packer says. “I absolutely have been there, and I still get there some days. But I don’t get to that point of wanting to end it all, because I have been given the tools to understand that today is a horrible day, but tomorrow doesn’t have to be.”
A recent spring afternoon in Packer’s kitchen is a good day, as she prepares lunch with her four children.
The Packer family gathers in the kitchen to cook dinner. From left: Jacob, 8; Brian Sr. ; Brian Jr., 11; Savannah, 5; Scarlett, 10; and Stephanie. (Photo by Stephanie O’Neill / KPCC)
“Do you want to help?” she asks the eager crowd of siblings gathered tightly around her at the stovetop.
“Yeah!” yells 5-year-old Savannah.
“I do!” says Jacob, 8.
Managing four kids as each vies for the chance to help make chicken salad sandwiches can be trying. But for Packer, these are the moments she cherishes. Continue reading